Rev. Vivian Gray

Rev. Vivian Gray

Monday, June 5, 1939 Sunday, January 6, 2019

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Obituary for Rev. Vivian W. Gray

Reverend Vivian W. Gray, affectionately called “Lou” by her close family and friends was born in Birmingham, Alabama on June 5, 1939 to the late Wesley and Bertha Williams. She went home to the Lord on Sunday, January 6, 2019.

Reverend Gray received her early education in the Birmingham, Alabama Public School System. She also earned a Bachelor degree in English Education from Miles College in Birmingham. She moved to Delaware where she was later employed as an educator in the New Jersey Public School System. She also taught pre-school classes at People’s Settlement and in the James Groves Adult Education Program. After 25 years of service she retired from the New Jersey Public School System. She later taught at George Read Middle School as a long-term substitute teacher in New Castle, Delaware.

She accepted Christ at an early age and joined the Steward Chapel C.M.E. Church in Birmingham, Alabama. In 1963 she joined St. Paul UAME Church of Wilmington, Delaware. In the 1980’s Reverend Gray accepted her call to ministry, serving under the tutelage of her Pastor, the late Bishop Michael S. Moulden of St. Paul UAME Church. In 1994 Reverend Gray’s first charge was to Pastor, Friendship UAME Church in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. In 1998 Reverend Gray was assigned as Pastor of Bethany UAME Church. In the UAME Conference, she served as Recording Secretary of the Ministerial Association, as a teacher, and held the position of Vice-President of the Boulden Seminary until her ministerial retirement in 2005.

Lou was personable, loving and kid to everyone she met. Children often clung to her, calling her “Grandmom Gray”. She loved music and she loved to sing. She often sang solos in church. Her favorite solo was “His Eye Is On The Sparrow”.

She was preceded in death by her late husband, John Paul Gray.

She leaves to cherish her memory, her daughter, Stephanie Carter (John); one granddaughter, Desiree Cooper (Will); one grandson, John R. Flamer known as “Randy”; three great grandchildren, Desmond and Dierra Cooper and Alexander Flamer; one Goddaughter, Tessa Fields; Godson, Jonathan Thornton; a spiritual daughter and mentee, Reverend Kim R. Moore; devoted friends, Ernestine and J.J. Johnson and Doretha M. Lewis and a host of other relatives and friends.

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  • Visitation

    Saturday, January 19, 2019 | 9:00am - 11:00am
    Bethany U.A.M.E. Church
    419 Williams Street
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    Saturday, January 19, 2019
    9:00am - 11:00am
  • Service

    Saturday, January 19, 2019 | 11:00am
    Bethany U.A.M.E. Church
    419 Williams Street
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    Saturday, January 19, 2019
  • Interment

    Bethany U.A.M.E. Cemetery
    5th & William Street
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I am truly sorry about your loss it's hard when we lose a loved one. However, I wanted to let you know that we can be comforted by a future hope. Soon there will be no more pain or sorrow. All the former things have passed away. (Rev 21:3,4)
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Ms. Stephanie
Sorry for your loss. May God be with you during this difficult time. I am praying for you and I send you my love.
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Volyncia,Chris,& ChristinaTamola

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Dear family, I express my deepest sympathy for the loss of your dear loved one and I know is so difficult to bear. But know that your Heavenly Father understands your pain and He cares. He extends a hope to each and everyone and that hope is that you will see your loved one again. John 5:28, 29; Isaiah 25:8a
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Arthur L Rollins Sr.

To the Family of Rev. Gray,

God has called one of His staunches Servant from labor to reward. It is my prayer that God will bestow His richest blessing upon as you grieve the loss of this wonderful person.
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